2022-02-01

35 tiny rules for my happiness

 https://archive.ph/mp4Nz 


Here are some rules I use in my life:
— Never check my phone for the first 60–90 minutes of the day.
— Sit in silence or read at lunch. This is a great time to steal some silence.
— Drive in the right lane on the highway unless you are passing someone. If you don’t think you are driving this way, please move over. I need to pass you.
— Eat the same 2–3 things at breakfast and lunch. It’s one less thing to spend your mental energy. Our lives are a series of decisions, and decision fatigue is very real.
— Always have 2 or 3 options for shirts that don’t need ironing and that can go with any color pants.
— Park in the back of a parking lot. It’s an opportunity to get a few more steps in each day.
— Dress comfortably without embarrassing your spouse. Dressing like a “grown-up” is ridiculous, outdated, and a rule made up by people who don’t smile.
— Let the other person get off the elevator before you go barreling in. It’s rude, clogs up space, and forces you to enter other’s personal bubbles.
— Round your ticket up and tip 20%. Judging their performance is one less thing I want to spend time on.
— Never watch live TV, unless it’s sports. There are zero reasons to watch commercials.
— Don’t answer your phone in the middle of a face-to-face conversation unless it’s urgent. You own the phone. The phone doesn’t own you.
— If you answer the phone, leave the room if your conversation disrupts someone else’s work, conversation, or leisure. They don’t want to be a part of your conversation.
— Email is not a direct messaging system, nor are you a lab rat waiting for a ding. There’s no reason to check it 17 times a day. If it’s that important, they will call.
— Avoid sugar before noon. Avoid it for as many days as possible.
— Drink water and coffee. Anything else shouldn’t be a habit.
— Spend zero time wondering what others think about you or something you said. It’s rarely that big of a deal or not something that won’t blow over. But it’s certainly not worth the energy spent.
— To become wiser, a better leader, and stronger, read books. To become reactionary, angry, or emotional, scroll your phone.
— If you decide to become a parent, accept that you aren’t entirely in charge anymore. It’s not releasing power. It’s accepting vulnerability.
— A filter I use for any habit I have: Would I want my child to do this? Am I setting a good example?
— Don’t finish bad books. Life is too short.
— Going to bed fixes stress, anger, and bad moods at a very high rate. Sleep is a powerful drug.
— Personal self-care is like a battery, and it takes effort to keep it charged. Sleep, exercise, diet, journaling, walks, and time thinking keeps it charged.
— Tell your spouse and children you love them more often than you have to. Nobody ever hears this too much.
— Time is more important than money, and it has a price attached to it. Money buys stuff. Time buys meaningful relationships. No child ever says after losing a parent; they wish mom/dad had made more money.
— If you aren’t hungry for breakfast, don’t eat.
— If you find a brand of clothes you like, buy them over and over at a sale price.
— Get the most critical, mentally demanding tasks done in the morning if you know your mind isn’t as sharp in the afternoon. Leave the shallow work for later (ex. emails, paperwork, admin, etc.)
— Don’t schedule out every minute of your day. That leads to a miserable life.
— Ask for Amazon gift cards for birthdays, then buy books. Books have the best ROI and will provide a life you can buy the things you want.
— A car should fit your needs. If you have million-dollar clients riding, make sure it’s luxury. If you need something to get from point A to point B, drive something reliable.
— Choose an exercise that you like. It’s hard enough to get into a routine.
— Know how much sleep you need to be productive and in a good mood. You and those around you will appreciate it.
— Smile, laugh and giggle with your kids — no matter how stressful your day was. It’s not their responsibility to deal with it.
— Eat what works for you. If you are sleepy or hungry two hours after you eat, you’re eating wrong.
— Days are simply a series of habits. Live your days practicing the patterns that represent who you want to be in the future.

2022-01-28

min(x)

 

In Fight Club, Tyler Durden made the bold claim: “The things you own, end up owning you.” Although I think that’s true, I’m not going to be a zealot here and try to convince you to throw away all of your possessions and go live on a mountain or something

Identity investment is what Fight Club ribs at when it makes fun of the need to own a bunch of nice stuff—people tend to become emotionally attached to their possessions and see their possessions as a part of themselves. This is particularly true in more materialistic cultures where people are encouraged to express their identities through consumerism. People become attached to the companies that make their car or truck, their computers, their clothing, their appliances, etc. They spent months saving up for an item, spent a lot of mental energy choosing which item “represents” them best, therefore they begin identifying themselves as a “Ford guy,” or a “Mac user,” or whatever.

This becomes part of your identity—no matter how small—that you portray to others in your life.

The second factor, loss aversion, is a sad fact of life. Psychology has shown that humans perceive the pain of losing something to be much greater than the pleasure of having it.1 This is true for everything—relationships, possessions, competition—and it’s hard-wired into us. All of us.

https://markmanson.net/minimalism

2022-01-27

dojoblog

 

O mai bună calitate a vieții

Unul dintre motivele cheie pentru care încă se pleacă din România este că, sincer, viața e mai bună altundeva. Știu, când am plecat prima dată la cumnații mei în Spania, că mi-a picat pur și simplu falca, văzând cum pot trăi acolo.

Hmm, la malul mării, străzi curate, civilizație. Am fost în Italia, în Germania, 1 an jumate în New York.

Nu cred că ajută nici faptul că Timișoara (și multe alte orașe românești) este plină de praf, țigănizată și fără prea multe opțiuni de relaxare (în afara Mall-ului).

Cumnații mei conduc 30 de minute până la mare (și ce frumoase plaje au acolo), prietena din Italia vreo oră până la Lago di Garda, eu merg pe jos pâna la plaja lacului (că avem 5 lacuri în pădure aici) și o oră până la ocean.

M-a tâmpit de cap drumul de 14-16 ore până la mare (mai ales cu un copil mic), nevoia de a lua avionul sau să conduci 2 ore până la cea mai apropiată stațiune de ski (aici am 3 la 10 km distanță).

Pare tâmpit modul acesta de a vedea lucrurile dar, în timp, te afectează. De ce să fie mai departe, dacă poate fi mai aproape. De ce să fii între țigani, dacă poți să nu ai de lucru cu ei? De ce să stai în mizerie și trafic, dacă poți să nu?

2022-01-25

how to get motivated - the Do something principle

" action is not just the effect of motivation, it's also the cause of it."


Mark Manson

2022-01-19

DIAMANT

 https://affenknecht.com/lyrics/diamant/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aSAzp3_zL6w


Du bist so schön, so wunderschönYou’re so beautiful, so wonderfully beautiful
Ich will nur dich, immer nur dich anseh’nI only want you, just to look at you always
Du lässt die Welt um mich verblassenYou make the world fade away around me
Kann den Blick nicht von dir lassenCan’t take my eyes off you
 
Und dieses Funkeln deiner AugenAnd that sparkle in your eyes
Will die Seele aus mir saugenwants to suck the soul out of me
 
Du bist schön wie ein DiamantYou’re beautiful like a diamond
Schön anzuseh’n wie ein DiamantBeautiful to look at, like a diamond
Doch bitte lass mich geh’nBut please let me go
 
Wie ein Juwel, so klar und reinLike a jewel, so clear and pure
Dein feines Licht war mein ganzes SeinYour delicate light was my entire being
Wollte dich ins Herzen fassenI wanted to take your heart
Doch was nicht lieben kann, muss hassenBut what cannot love must hate
 
Und dieses Funkeln deiner AugenAnd that sparkle in your eyes
Will die Seele aus mir saugenwants to suck the soul out of me
 
Du bist schön wie ein DiamantYou’re beautiful like a diamond
Schön anzuseh’n wie ein DiamantBeautiful to look at, like a diamond
Doch bitte lass mich geh’nBut please let me go
Welche Kraft, was für ein ScheinWhat strength, what shine
Wunderschön wie ein DiamantWonderfully beautiful, like a diamond
Doch nur ein SteinBut only a stone

2022-01-14

2022-01-12

citroen motor codes

 


3309 for euro4

 You should NOT use JWS 3309 transmission oil in Euro 5 AM6 Gearboxes. JWS 3309 is for the earlier Euro 4 gearboxes on earlier models.

JWS 3324 is for the Euro 5 variants of the AM6 gearbox.

2022-01-06

5:2 rule for Intermitent Fasting

 https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/review-links-2-types-of-intermittent-fasting-to-significant-weight-loss#Fastings-effects-on-obesity,-insulin-


  • Modified alternate-day fasting had associations with a greater decline in BMI or body weight in adults who were healthy, overweight, and obese than a regular diet.
  • Zero-calorie alternate-day fasting and 5:2 diet had associations with a greater reduction in fat mass and fasting insulin levels, respectively, in adults with overweight or obesity than continuous energy restriction.

2022-01-04

matrix 4 - memorable ideas

 Tânjind tăcuți după ce nu aveți, îngroziți să pierdeți ce aveți.

Dorința și frica  ne conduc

Dragostea e geneza a tot.

Alegerea e o iluzie.

„Miliarde de oameni care își trăiesc viețile...absenti.”

„E mult mai simplu să îngropi realitatea decât să scapi de vise”

Trebuie să vezi ca să crezi.

Limitele sunt domeniul limitaților.